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Waste not want not

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This is a saying that my father often spokewhen we had some food that was left over or perhaps when food was a little bit substandard. My father was a keen gardener and when you have laboured with love over your vegetable patch loath are you to dispose of that food, if remotely edible!

Lately I have been very fortunate to receive an abundance of food thank Steve Z. Skowyrski for that. It would appear that Xmas is a time of abundance in food stores, but so is the danger of stocking the wrong things.

Carrots were a big over stocked item this year so it seems with literally 100's of kilo's finding their way into the "past sell by date" category. Now there are only so many carrots you can eat isn't there? ... well I have seen some impressive substitutions going including Carrots instead of tomatoes in chilli or spaghetti bolonaise. I've had my fill of carrot juice as well... I think I'm taking on an orange tinge now! ... substitute for tanning products?

So thi…

What do you hold most dear to you? ... your values

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Over the festive period I read a post about values.I must admit it's an interesting topic and it got me thinking about my own values (for my life) and what is important to me... and also about the things I am involved in, and perhaps what the values of those organisations might look like.

Why would we bother with values?
Well... I think deep down inside of us we do have a set of values that we believe in. They might be things that pop into our head and we confirm them to ourselves, or when we are being asked to make a decision we ponder what we believe is the right path even if we believe it might not be the best for us in the short term.

To actually think about our values in the first place is a start. It's a bit like setting boundaries or a "modus operandi", something we won't be compromised on, or that gives us direction when the way forward is unclear.

My own personal opinion following some internal reflection is that I believe I have some good values, that a…

What are you fearful of?

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What are you full of fear of? That's a slightly different question isn't it, but maybe it helps to re-arrange the words and place the emphasis differently.

Many of us wouldn't identify with being fearful of that much nowadays; except the usual, spiders, snakes et al. In reality though fear is often right at the centre of our lives and decision making.

As it turns out there is quite a lot we can be fearful of.......

Fearful about what people will think?
This is at the root of a huge number of issues in society today, and is getting worse by the year. This is becoming an epidemic that is stifling and goes right back to our own beliefs about ourselves. Much of the time we're wearing a kind of mask that we're happy to be seen in public with. If operates as a kind of shield that we operate behind. We share ourselves in accordance with the mask as this is a safe accepted place and we can't get into much harm behind there.

People expect us to behave in a certain way …

The Need to Need & the Need to be Needed

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This blog post has been prompted by Brené Brown's book Rising Strong. In this book Brené discusses that we all need to need, and we all need to be needed. At first sight this is a bit of a mouthful to get your head around, however here goes...

From my youth and growing up with my parents I have countless examples of where my father would extol the benefits of being Independent. Don't rely on anyone, the more you can do yourself the better. It seemed like good sense to me, dad was decorating, gardening, wiring, building things, making things with wood... with a friend of his he put in central heating, with his bother he built a conservatory, and, on his own landscaped the entire garden... As a role model for a young kid growing up, he was definitely walking his own talk. Independence it is then I reasoned!

So for a good few years that's the way I played it... you could actually see his younger version in me as I proceeded to become a capable decorator, gardener, even wiring…

Amazing things happen when you leave the house...

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I was having a discussion the other day about conversationswe have with ourselves inside our own heads. The discussion was with regard to the times we have agreed to go to a networking event and are now reconsidering as we prepare to get ready.

More important things have cropped up now which demand my attention (have they?), it will probably will be a waste of time anyway (will it?). I have been known to be incredibly creative in conjuring up reasons for my non attendance, I have a huge repertoire. However... In the end the one thing that makes me go is that I said I would. If I say I would go, then, unless, it is something life threatening I am going to be there... no matter what. It doesn't stop the mind chatter having a go though, but I just dismiss it now as a simple matter of course.

Before I launch into my storyand the reason for this blog, I am a firm believer that when we say yes to something we did so for a reason. I am a big believer in "Gut Instinct" and "…

31st October is a big day for transitions...

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The 31st October 2019 is the scheduled date for the UK to exit the European Union.The start of a huge transition for millions of people in Europe but it could also be the beginning of a huge transition for you too... 

On the 31st of October "we" are travelling to mainland Europe, in fact central Europe, the beautiful capital of Hungary; Budapest, for a 4 day compact retreat. (ends 4th Nov.)

The retreat; co-authored by a collaboration between Victoria Hart, Viktoria Duda, and myself is designed to lead us through the elements of Transition. Many of us find ourselves at some point in our lives at a crossroads where our siutation has changed and we're not sure what to do...

Situations such as :-

Decided you want to leave the rat raceGoing through a divorceChildren leaving homeMade redundantGoing from a job to working for yourselfBetween jobsRecovering from a trauma
Whatever the situation it is likely the first time you have embarked upon this path. You may feel disorientated …

To text or not to text that is the question

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I've been a fan of Textingas I am sure most people have been since those early days of 10p a text I think it was once... 

Today there are hundreds of ways of messaging people... Text, WhatsApp, Messenger, Twitter, linkedin, Hangouts, Skype, Pinterest, Instagram... and that is just scratching the surface with the most popular ones. Often if you receive a message and don't catch the notification you can be wading through the apps trying to find the message.

Like Email; an absolutely amazing innovation when it first appeared... you could send a message anywhere in the world to anyone pretty much instantly... before that it had been 5 days in the post, or expensive phone calls, or... telegram... now I'm going back!  ... telex anyone, facsimile was also there in the mix but way more expensive than email which is FREE! (-ish)

But what has this instant communication actually done?
A lot of the naysayers will immediately say that it has stunted communication and no one talks to an…